Become a 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach and Help Couples Rebuild Stronger Marriages

Learn the proven framework that equips Christian leaders to guide couples from conflict and disconnection toward clarity, intentionality, and deeper intimacy.

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program trains leaders to recognize the structural cracks in a marriage and guide couples toward an extraordinary marriage.

Inside This Certification You Will Learn How To:

✔   Recognize why marriages drift and how to restore connection

✔   Identify which pillar(s) of intimacy needs attention

✔   Guide couples through difficult conversations safely

✔   Reframe conflict without blame or taking sides

✔   Help husbands and wives rebuild connection step by step

✔   Lead coaching conversations with clarity and confidence

The Quiet Crisis in Marriages Today

Most struggling marriages never reach a counselor’s office. Instead, couples begin drifting quietly.

Conversations shrink.

Stress grows.

Friendship fades.

Couples begin asking questions like:

• “Why does this feel so hard?”

• “Why can’t we talk without fighting?”

• “Why do we feel like roommates?”

You already care about marriages.

You’ve sat with couples who are struggling. You’ve listened. You’ve tried to help.

And at some point, you’ve felt it:

“I want to help… but I don’t always know where to start.”

Not because you lack heart. But because you haven’t been given a clear way to see what’s really happening.

A Different Way to Understand Marriage

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Framework gives couples a structural way to understand their marriage.

Instead of asking:

“What’s wrong with us?”

Couples begin asking:

“Which pillar needs attention?”

This shift:

• removes blame

• restores teamwork

• creates clarity

• gives couples a path forward

The Calling to Strengthen Marriages

Across churches and communities, many Christians feel a deep burden for marriages. You may already be someone (counselor, therapist, pastor, etc.) people turn to when their relationship is struggling.

You might:

• lead a small group

• mentor younger couples

• volunteer in marriage ministry

• guide people informally

You care deeply about helping marriages thrive. But passion alone isn’t enough. You need a clear framework that allows you to confidently guide couples when their marriage feels stuck.

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®

Healthy marriages stand on six relational pillars.

When couples learn to see their relationship through these pillars, rebuilding becomes possible.

The Impact of One Marriage Restored

At the heart of this work is a simple mission:

Impact ONE Marriage

Every Day

Because when one marriage is restored, the ripple effect reaches far beyond the couple themselves.

Children experience greater stability.

Families grow stronger.

Communities become healthier.

Future generations are impacted.

The Ripple Effect

A couple finds hope again.

They begin communicating differently.

Their home becomes more peaceful.

Their children experience a healthier model of marriage.

That is how communities change.

It starts with one marriage at a time.

One Pillar. One Reframe. One Action.

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework teaches couples how to rebuild intentionally.

Not by fixing everything overnight.

But by taking the next step.

One pillar.

One reframe.

One action.

Founder Story

Meet Alisa DiLorenzo

Marriage Coach & Co-Creator of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®

Since 2012, Alisa DiLorenzo has walked alongside couples who wanted their marriage to thrive but felt stuck in patterns of conflict or distance. Through her coaching work she has helped over 600 individuals and couples rebuild closeness and connection.

Over time, she noticed something important: most couples were not broken. They simply lacked a clear framework for understanding what was happening inside their marriage.

After years of coaching conversations, Alisa developed what is now known as The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework.

Instead of asking:

“Who is right?”

Couples begin asking:

“Which pillar needs attention?”

That shift restores clarity and hope.

This is not about learning more—it’s about learning how to see clearly and respond simply.  

The Turning Point in a Marriage

Many couples reach a moment where they feel stuck. They’ve had the same conversation again and again.

One spouse feels unheard. The other feels misunderstood. Both feel discouraged.

They may still care deeply about each other, but they no longer know how to move forward.

Often they say things like:

“We’ve talked about this so many times.”

“Nothing ever changes.”

“It feels like we’re just roommates.”

But something powerful happens when the conversation shifts.

Instead of asking:

“Who’s right?”

The conversation becomes:

“Which pillar needs attention?”

Suddenly the focus changes. The couple stops blaming each other. They begin working together. The conversation becomes calmer.

Hope returns.

And for many couples, that moment becomes the turning point. Not because everything is fixed overnight. But because they finally have a clear path forward.

This is the kind of conversation a 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach is trained to guide.

One pillar.

One reframe.

One action.

That is often all it takes to begin rebuilding.

What Couples Experience When The 6 Pillars Framework Is Used

One of the most powerful outcomes of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework is how quickly conversations change.

Couples who once felt stuck, defensive, or afraid to talk begin experiencing something different.

Safety. Clarity. Hope.

Here’s what couples often say after experiencing coaching conversations guided by the framework.

“We finally had a way to talk about what was really happening.”

Before coaching, we kept having the same argument and nothing changed.

Once we started using the pillars, the conversation became calmer and clearer. We weren’t trying to win anymore, we shifted our focus to rebuilding.

“For the first time, we felt like we had a strategy.”

We had talked about our problems for years but never knew where to start. The framework helped us understand what was really happening and what to focus on first.

It gave us direction.

“It feels good to have a neutral party to say things I’ve wanted to say for a long time.”

Many couples struggle because they don’t know how to express what they are feeling without starting a conflict.

When a conversation is guided through the 6 Pillars framework, spouses often feel safe enough to share what has been unspoken for years.

“This was relaxing and nice—comfortably talking, not threatening.”

The framework removes blame and helps couples feel like they are on the same team again.

Instead of arguing about who is right, they begin focusing on what their marriage needs.

“I was nervous before the call, but I felt very comfortable and got a new direction.”

Many couples arrive feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start.

The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® provides a clear structure that brings direction and hope to the conversation.

“We needed to talk about things we haven’t been able to talk about.”

Often couples know something is wrong but don’t know how to address it safely.

When guided through the right pillar, difficult topics can finally be discussed without the conversation falling apart.

“Having a neutral person who doesn’t know us and doesn’t see us every day helped so much.”

A trained coach creates a safe environment where both spouses feel heard.

This allows couples to step out of their usual patterns and see their marriage with fresh clarity.

“I didn’t feel singled out or attacked—I felt like we both had a strategy.”

One of the most powerful outcomes of the framework is that it removes blame.

Instead of focusing on who caused the problem, couples focus on strengthening the pillar that needs attention.

What You’re Stepping Into

You are not becoming someone who gives better advice.

You are becoming someone who can: 

→ See what others cannot yet see

→ Name what’s happening without creating blame

→ Bring clarity into conversations that feel stuck or overwhelming

→ Create safety where tension normally escalates

→ Guide couples toward what to build—not just what to fix

You stop asking:

“What should I say?”

And start asking:

“What am I seeing—and where do we begin?”

Certification Requires Demonstrated Proficiency

Becoming a 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach requires more than completing training.

Participants must demonstrate the ability to:

• identify the correct pillar

• offer a safe and clear reframe

• guide couples toward the right action step

• lead conversations responsibly

Those who successfully complete the assessment earn the credential:

6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach

What Happens Next

After enrollment, you will step into a live, guided training experience inside The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program.

This is not a self-paced course.

You will be trained through interactive sessions designed to help you think, respond, and lead using the framework in real conversations.

Each session is recorded so you can revisit the material and continue building your confidence.

Inside the training, you will learn how to:

• understand the 6 Pillars framework and how it functions as a system

• recognize structural cracks in a marriage beneath surface-level conflict

• guide couples through safe, productive conversations

• help couples take intentional, practical steps toward rebuilding connection

To become certified, participants must demonstrate proficiency in using the framework.

You will complete a certification assessment that shows you can:

• identify the correct pillar in a coaching scenario

• offer a clear and supportive reframe

• guide couples toward a practical next step

This ensures that every certified coach represents the framework responsibly.

Once you successfully complete the assessment, you will earn the credential:

6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach

Certified coaches are equipped to guide couples using the framework and strengthen marriages in their communities.

Frequently Asked Questions

How the Training Works

This certification is designed to be both comprehensive and practical.

You are not expected to memorize everything.

You are learning a simple, repeatable way to guide couples:

One pillar.

One reframe.

One action.

Each session builds on the last—giving you the structure, language, and confidence to apply the framework in real conversations.

By the end of the program, you won’t just understand the 6 Pillars.

You’ll know how to use them.

Investment

Certification Tuition + First-Year Certified Coach License — $2,000 *($6,000 after Beta)

Training and Certification — $1,500 (one-time)

Includes the full 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program and certification assessment.

This covers:

• Live, guided training across all phases of the framework

• Practical application, coaching reps, and real-world scenarios

• Certification assessment (teach-back) to demonstrate competency

• Official recognition as a 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach upon successful completion

Annual Certified Coach License — Year One ($500 value)

Maintains your authorization to publicly represent and use The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework as a Certified Coach.

This includes:

• Use of the “6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach” title and brand assets

• Active status and listing as a Certified Coach

• Continued access to framework updates, tools, and coaching resources

• Ongoing development to strengthen application and leadership

• Required to maintain active status, brand usage rights, and public representation as a Certified Coach

Annual Certified Coach License Renewal — $500 per year (beginning year two)

Required to maintain:

• Use of the Certified Coach title and brand assets

• Active status and public representation as a Certified Coach

• Continued access to framework updates and coaching tools

*Annual License can be cancelled at any time after year one

*Total cost of program after Beta — $6,000 ($4,000 for training and certification + $2,000 for annual certified coach license.)

Become a Certified 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Coach

Equip yourself with the framework that helps couples rebuild connection and strengthen their marriage.

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